|Three reasons I fight... God, Family and Liberty|
My good friend and fellow victim of Paternity Fraud, Brandon Jones opened his testimony before the Washington State House Judiciary Committee in 2016 with the following statement.
“There were many things I wanted to do with my life. Being the face of Paternity Fraud wasn’t one of them.”
Never before have these words rang so clear to me as they do today. Last night as I entered the local Tea Party monthly meeting, where I was scheduled to be one of the three speakers, in a presentation titled “Power Activists”, I was pulled aside and informed that some people felt my message against Paternity Fraud had “over saturated” the environment, and that I would be given five minutes to speak on a positive note in the face of the death of SB 5461, and to relay some sort of good-hearted message about where I was going from here.
The honest truth, is that I didn’t have any good-hearted message and don’t exactly know where I am going from here, and the words “Paternity Fraud” have become words that feel like vomit erupting from my throat that I wish I had never heard, and could never repeat again in my life.
The fact that I had just spent three hours of my day grappling for some kind of new message to relay, was a stark reminder filling me with resentment that this was yet more time I had lost with my children and more time of my life that I will never get back.
The truth is that no one is more bored and tired of hearing and reading about this subject than yours truly, and yet I had struggled to “pull up my big girl panties” and serve my fellow citizens by going to task and speaking when I had been asked to… only to be told last minute that my message was overplayed and obsolete.
This isn’t the first time I have heard this message of being an over achiever, as one email from my local 26th LD Senator Angel wrote me a week before the death of SB 5461,
“I did hear you’ve contacted Senator Schoesler’ s office so much it didn’t help you - -I know how passionate you are about this bill however you are hurting its chances when you continually call leadership.”
To which my reply was…
“Thanks Jan I appreciate you reaching out.
Unfortunately, no one ever gave me a manual on passing Legislation. I am a citizen trying my best. I’m not perfect that’s for sure but I have tried to do better each year. Needless to say, I am more and more depressed at Legislators reactions to my imperfections and struggle to do better.
It’s just sad at this point. I am not the only person requesting this change so I should hope that a good and fair bill wouldn't be allowed to die year after year because one person’s actions or personality was not looked favorably upon.
Perhaps if law makers actually responded to inquiries I wouldn't keep calling or emailing. Unfortunately, again most legislators just send my emails to spam.
This year has been particularly difficult due to being involved in an active court case, which means opening up old memories of our hellish nightmare spanning the last decade, on top of fighting for legislation and recently opening our home to the media and public scrutiny of our fight to end Paternity Fraud. I can tell you with certainty, that there were many things I wanted to do with my life and that being the face of Paternity Fraud activism wasn’t one of them.
I am just a woman, who decided to pull up my panties one day and fight for justice for my family and others across Washington. I do not ask for money for the work I do…the thousands of hours I have put into this fight has only cost my family. I do not do it for fame or fortune, and in all honesty, wish that I wasn’t known as “that paternity fraud lady” to the majority of Legislative Aids in Olympia.
I am tired and road weary… I have good days and bad. I am human, and I cry myself to sleep some nights, wishing more than anything that I could wake up in the morning and never have to think about or hear the words “Paternity Fraud” again…
But until my family is free, and until Legislators do their damned jobs and stop supporting legalized kidnapping, fraud, and extortion so that the State can profit from Federal subsidies under Title IV-D, I guess I will just have to keep waking up every morning and doing my thing… which is to beat this dead horse called Paternity Fraud.
If people get tired of hearing these words and this story, I can suggest earplugs or the door.
For those of you who stand beside me and continue to fight, I am forever indebted to your friendship and support.